A newly surfaced video is shedding light on right-wing commentator and social media influencer, Steven Crowder’s behavior as he emotionally berates his heavily pregnant wife, admonishing her for not adhering to traditional gender roles.
The video, recorded using door security software, Ring , was released on Thursday April 27 by journalist Yashar Ali on his Substack.
The footage captures the events leading up to the YouTuber’s described “horrendous divorce”, during which Crowder’s wife, Hilary, is seen repeatedly trying to reassure her husband of her love and commitment.
At one point, she tells him, “I love you … but your abuse is sick”, to which he sternly warns her, “Watch it. Watch it. F–king watch it.”
The nearly 3 1/2-minute video from June 2021, shows Crowder smoking as he admonishes his wife, who was eight months pregnant with their twins, for not respecting the “boundaries” he had set for her.
He tells her, “You are not taking the car, because if you refuse to do wifely things then I will go pick up the groceries,” as she tries to leave their home.
Crowder reportedly admitted to later inside the house threatening his wife: “I will f–k you up.”
His distressed wife quietly notes that they do not need groceries, and offers to pick up anything he needs while she is out.
Still, the influencer snaps, “I can’t go to the gym. I can’t go to my parents. I can’t call my friends. … Hilary, just think of how boxed in you’ve made me!”
As his wife breathes deeply and appears to fight back tears, Crowder tells her that “the only way out of it is discipline and respect.”
Again offering to get her husband’s grocery needs, Hilary says she needs “some space,” telling him: “I love you — I love you very much.”
“I don’t love you, that’s the big problem,” Crowder replies back.
“And the fact is, when I go, ‘Look, I need you to do A, B, C and D,’ you should be disciplined about it, you go, ‘No!’” he complained — ordering her to “become worthy — wife worthy.”
“I love you. I’m committed to you,” his wife tells Crowder.
Crowder interrupts: “Put on some gloves. Are you committed enough to do those things? … walk the dogs and put on some gloves.
“Are you committed enough to get the medication?” he asks, referring to what the report said was a treatment for the dogs that Hilary feared would be toxic for pregnant women.
Crowder later admitted on audio to his “f–k you up” threat after the couple went inside the house, realizing he went too far, Ali said. Still, it was pivotal to his wife’s decision to finally file for divorce months later.
The couple married in 2012. Before their divorce, she gave birth to their twins in August 2021 — but Crowder “chose not to be with his wife during the birth of their twin children,” Hilary’s family told Ali.
“The truth is that Hilary spent years hiding Steven’s mentally and emotionally abusive behavior from her friends and family while she attempted to save their marriage,” the family alleged when questioned about how the video leaked.
Crowder — perhaps best known for a viral meme of him sitting behind a desk with the sign “Change my mind” — has yet to address the footage.
However, he told his “Louder With Crowder” audience earlier this week about his “horrendous divorce,” hinting at enemies trying to shame and extort him over it.
“It’s been the most heartbreaking experience in my life,” he said, calling the divorce “my deepest personal failure.”
“I’ve always believed children need a mom and a dad and that divorce is horrible. And I still believe that children need a mom and a dad and that divorce is horrible.
“But in today’s legal system, my beliefs don’t matter,” he complained, repeatedly attacking Texas laws allowing his wife to leave without proving blame.
Watch the video below
Stephen Crowder’s 8 months pregnant wife didn’t want to touch dog medicine that was potentially dangerous to her unborn twins, so he tried to FORCE HER. He wouldn’t let her leave the fukcing house!
This is disgusting. I’m sick of these abusers who won’t let their victims leave.
— Milton Chombah (@miltonchombah) April 28, 2023
